There are some people I would make every effort to hear if
they were in my area of the USA. Richard
Rohr is one of those folks. And some
people write things that I want to read---whether it is a new book, an article
or a blog. Again, Richard Rohr is one of
those people. Rohr is a Franciscan who
lives in Albuquerque and runs a Center for Action and Contemplation. I have met him, but we are not friends. I have many of his books and I like to read
his daily blog.
In a recent blog he talked about human development. Of course for him, human development includes
spiritual development. Rohr would not
consider someone fully human unless that person were also fully developed
spiritually. The blog was aptly called,
“Growing into Belonging.” Suffice it to
say here, no one is fully human and spiritual all by himself or herself. The end game is unity, not
individuality. Let’s use a couple of his
thoughts to develop this idea.
When I read Rohr, I move along through the text fairly quickly. I have read enough to have a sense of where
he is going. But inevitably, I will run
across a sentence or an idea that arrests me.
My reading slams to a stop and I ponder the gem I just read. I hit one of those sentences in this blog and
I share that as our jumping off point.
Rohr comments, “Many
who are judgmental and unforgiving seem to have missed out on the joy and
clarity of the first childhood simplicity, perhaps avoided the suffering of the
mid-life complexity, and thus lost the great freedom and magnanimity of the
second simplicity as well.” This kind of
sentence describes my experiences so well, I have to declare it true in a deep
sense.
Every
one of us has known some people who are judgmental and unforgiving. To be honest, there are times when I am sure
I have been just such a person! To
develop humanly and spiritually means we don’t have to get stuck in this place
of judgmentalism. Rohr offers an answer
that I would like to pursue.
Rohr
suggests that these types of people missed out on the joy and clarity of first
childhood simplicity. I have had my own
kids and now I am watching some grandkids grow into being little people. I do think children desire a kind of
simplicity. This extends from taking
things literally---like Santa Claus to believing their little animals are
real. Life is simple and with that comes
a clarity and joy. It makes perfect
sense.
Obviously,
there are also children who parents have troubles or whose circumstances make
life difficult. These children are
deprived of the simplicity that enables healthy nurturing and development. We all know that life gets complex and
complicated soon enough. Often we do it
to our own kids by pushing them too hard in school, etc. “Let kids be kids,” we often hear. There is some truth to that.
The
other observation Rohr makes about people who are judgmental and unforgiving is
their luck to have avoided the suffering that do come to most of us---by middle
age, if not sooner. While suffering is
never desirable, it can be a teacher and molder of character. While I might be fortunate if I can avoid
this kind of suffering, perhaps I will be deprived of the kind of developmental
process that eventually makes me a suitable citizen of God’s kingdom. When confronted by suffering, I don’t want it
and I don’t want to miss its lessons!
Rohr calls this a kind of irony.
Rohr
states, “The great irony is that we must go through a lot of complexity and
disorder (another word for necessary suffering) to return to the second
simplicity.” I don’t think I know this
second simplicity, but I do think I have hints of it. I am old enough, but perhaps I have not yet
suffered enough! Again, I am not sure it
makes sense to volunteer for suffering, but you can be ready for it when it
comes your way. And you can choose the
route of compassion, which means you are willing to suffer with others who are
mired in their own suffering. People
like Mother Teresa committed her whole life to this compassionate being-with.
The
second simplicity is like the first simplicity, except it has been honed and
steeped in the suffering. To go through
this experience brings us ultimately to a free and magnanimous place, as Rohr
states. These are the older, wise ones
who seem to have it all figured out. Of
course, they may not have all the answers, but they do have an “ease and peace”
about them.
The
second simplicity is people are free.
They are free of the attachments and bondages that still stifle those of
us on the way. They become big-hearted
people---indeed, willing to give away their hearts. They are a delight and a light to the
world. I am not there; but if I can keep
growing, I can more closely approximate a second simplicity kind of person.
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