Throughout
the history of spirituality there traditionally have been two paths that one
could follow. These go by various names,
but the thrust is the same. One classic
way of talking about them is to label them the active and contemplative life. The active life is what characterizes most of
us. It is normal life in the world. It describes those who have jobs and
families. The contemplative life
typically is a more restricted, more reserved life. Traditionally, it is seen a less worldly.
Another way
the two paths are described is the monastic and lay paths. Obviously the monastic life is for those men
and women who withdraw from the ordinary world and join a monastery. They dedicate and devote their lives to God
in a more focused and time-consuming way than the other, lay folks do. To those of us outside a monastery, it might
seem like a more demanding way of living.
But perhaps the monks look at all of us “out here” in the world and
wonder how we do it. For many there are
jobs, families, chores at home and on and on.
Probably the real truth is both ways can be quite demanding. They are just different.
It is easy to
equate the active life with the life most of us are living in the world. In this case our lives are more complicated
if we also want to live spiritually.
Balance becomes tricky. How do I
do my job, pay attention to family and friends, deal with problems and still
give some attention to my spiritual journey?
It is not easy. At times we fail
miserably. The temptation is to give
up. And yet we will have no spiritual
life if we do not persevere.
It is also easy
to equate the contemplative life with the life of the monks living in community
or solitude. For those of us on the
outside, it is tempting to conclude these monks have it made when it comes to
living a spiritual life. After all, they
have all that “free time!” They pray, do
a little work, and be spiritual all day long.
Some of us might be envious of this spiritual luxury. Many others of us wonder why they don’t get a
real life and struggle like the rest of us!
We can be secretly resentful because they seemingly have opted out of
real life.
As with many
models or categorizations, this way of understanding things probably is too
simplistic and not useful. In my own
life I have been trying to manage something in all the arenas. It is easy to see that I am in the “real
world.” I have a wife and kids and
grandkids. I have a job and I am busy
like all other “normal” people. So
clearly I am a layperson leading an active life.
But I also
hang out with monks and in my own tiny way, I am attempting to live
monastically in the midst of my normal life.
I also am drawn to the contemplative life and try to practice that when
I can. So I am either hopelessly confused
or creatively trying to manage a tricky balance.
I was
intrigued recently when I encountered the words of a writer on
spirituality. His journey is the
opposite of mine. In his younger years,
he spent considerable time in the monastery.
But ultimately, he struggled and finally left. But he did not dismiss the monastic. He simply learned to be spiritual and do
spirituality in a different way.
Finally, both paths are legitimate and, perhaps, complimentary.
Here are the
sage words of Philip Zaleski, as he describes his move from one path to the
other. “The struggle to love and to be
loved, to make a living and provide for your family, and to keep sufficient
sanity to get along in the world is a path toward spirit as sure as a retreat
from life in some hothouse of spirituality where the way seems direct and
transparent.” I like these words, but I
fear he does not give the monastery as much credit as it deserves. But I do like his way of describing the
spiritual journey. It involves loving
and being loved. That sometimes is a
struggle. Providing for a family can be
quite easy. And then, there are times it
can be a real pain!
We all know
keeping sane in our world can drive you nuts!
In fact I fear our culture sometimes anoints certain forms of insanity
and pretends those forms are sane! For
example, Americans honor hard work. But
workaholics are probably insane.
Sometimes I fear this is my chosen form of insanity! But it can look so spiritual.
I want to
hold on to both spiritual paths. I see
them as complements to each other. They
can help me with the balance that I am sure is needed to grow spiritually. I want to be active and, yet, preserve a
contemplative perspective that moderates the extremes of the active life. I want to embrace fully the lay life of being
spiritual in the world. But I want to
hang out with monks and read the literature of the monks. I want their witness to shine its light on my
crazy dark places and bring me into the light.
Lord, give me
help and hope as I journey through life…walking two paths.
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