First it was
an email and then a follow-up phone call.
The name I did not recognize. But
as I read the email, clues began to emerge.
The person contacting me was a student in my classes more than three
decades ago! I was not surprised that I
did not recognize the name. He would
have been one of twenty or thirty in a class of seven or more classes in my
second year of teaching. There have been
hundreds, probably thousands, of students in and out of my life in more than
three decades.
Of course,
theologically I would affirm that each of us is a unique human being. Each of us is created in the image and
likeness of God. Sure, all of us “image”
the same God. But we are not “spitting
images” of each other, as my grandfather would say. So David, as I will call him, was not someone
whose name triggered my memory bank.
Of course,
none of us is a name alone. There must
be tens of thousands of guys named David in this country alone. He may even share a last name with some other
Davids. But he is unique. Only he---that unique David---has lived his
life, has experienced his experiences, and become the child of God he has
become. That David was now contacting
me.
That David,
too, has grown up. He had graduated from
college and had gone on to medical school.
He is now a successful physician married to another physician and now
has two kids. One of those kids is
college age and David and family were in town to check out my college. So we met in the parking lot!
I recognized
him when he emerged from the car. His
hair is greying, but so has mine! It was
nice to meet his wife and his two children.
Our conversation was a strange mixture of memories of David and me in a
classroom long, long ago and anticipation of what it might be like to have his
son in my classroom in some distant future.
I had to
laugh. There I was---stuck in the middle
of the past and the future. Maybe that
is always where the present is lived---stuck in the middle of the past and the
future. Seldom is it so stark as it was
in that moment. In some ways I did not
know how to process it. What was I to
make of it? A few thoughts began to form
and to which I can give voice.
In the first
place I give thanks for awareness. I
realize it is a real gift of being human that I can be aware. I can be aware of a past and aware of a
future that I probably have. Thanks be
to God! I am not traversing life merely
by going through the motions. I am
trying to make a difference. To make a
difference is another way of saying I am trying to live my life with meaning
and purpose. I am sure you are, too.
So when David
came back into my life through an email, a phone call, and then in person, I
had a great chance to see the past become present. I had not touched his life in more than 30
years was my first thought. And at the
literal level, that was true. I had not
talked to him nor seen him in more than 30 years.
However, I
think there are multiple levels of impact.
The biblical passage from Matthew’s gospel came into my mind. In the middle of the Sermon on the Mount
Jesus says, “By their fruit you will recognize them.” (Mt 7:16) I laughed again. I am not prone to having biblical verses pop
into my head. But the verse was perfect
and helped me see the situation in a light that I liked.
David was a fruit of my work more than 30 years ago. I recall almost nothing I would have done in
the class that we had together. Probably
that does not matter. Apparently, I made
in impression and, perhaps, had an impact.
How else would one explain why he would bother to contact me? I have no favors to offer; there is no
special deal coming from me. All we have
are some interesting, mutual memories.
But he is the fruit of my work. He gives me a sense of meaning and purpose
for what I do. It cannot be measured in
money or other tangible means. But it is
real. I am lucky to see him at this
“fruit stage.” Thirty some years ago, I
was planting seeds in his life. I was
cultivating his potentiality and clear capabilities. Perhaps, I was sowing hope in his
imagination. Maybe I helped stoke the
dream of service than he now renders as a physician and father.
I feel lucky. It is
easy to work for days, weeks, or even years and have little clue whether one is
making a difference. For long periods I
am not aware at all whether there will be any legacy---any fruit that results
from the activity. David has given me
assurance that my life and work have born fruit.
We are all living in the present---sandwiched between the
past and the future. Make sure who you
are and what you are doing brings the possibility of making a difference. Make sure that by your fruit you can be
recognized. In the present there is
always that chance and that choice.
Don’t waste it with rotten stuff.
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