Regular readers of this inspirational reflection know that I
have significant respect for what David Brooks writes. His columns appear in the New York Times and
sundry other venues. Although I do not
agree with all of Brooks’ political sensitivities, I find his thought to be
trenchant and challenging. Lately, he
has been focusing more and more on the culture that we inhabit and the moral
deficiencies that come with that culture.
I find this pursuit to be compelling.
So I look forward to new offerings as they come out.
Recently, his column carried the title, “The Moral
Bucket.” His opening line was
inviting. “About once a month I run across a person who radiates
an inner light.” I resonated with this
and wanted to affirm that I, too, occasionally meet that kind of person---the
kind who radiates an inner light. He
continues, “These people can be in any walk of life.”
A bit
later, Brooks becomes autobiographical.
He says, “But I confess I often have a sadder thought: It occurs to me
that I’ve achieved a decent level of career success, but I have not achieved
that. I have not achieved that
generosity of spirit, or that depth of character.” He helped me see what was at stake:
generosity of spirit and depth of character.
Exactly right. That is what these
inner light people have: generosity of spirit and depth of character. I read on and was not surprised that Brooks
decides he wants this in his own life.
I found
it fascinating to read how he resolved to do it. Brooks said, “A few years ago I realized that
I wanted to be a bit more like those people. I realized that if I wanted to do that I was
going to have to work harder to save my own soul. I was going to have to have the sort of moral
adventures that produce that kind of goodness. I was going to have to be better at balancing
my life.” I am not sure about saving my
own soul. I might have put it
differently. I like the idea of moral
adventures; that sounds appropriate.
In
nearly the next breath, Brooks distinguishes between two kinds of virtues. Because I have written some about virtues, I
was intrigued by his distinction. Brooks
declares, “It occurred to me that there were two sets of virtues, the résumé
virtues and the eulogy virtues. The
résumé virtues are the skills you bring to the marketplace. The eulogy virtues are the ones that are
talked about at your funeral — whether you were kind, brave, honest or
faithful. Were you capable of deep love?” I had to smile. I certainly know about résumé virtues.
I am
ready for some eulogy virtue work, too.
Brooks’ article is much too long to offer all the details. He offers six themes that typically are part
of the person working on eulogy virtues.
The first one is what he calls “The Humility Shift.” In a few words this one basically says, “get
over yourself!” Brooks captures it very
well: “We live in the culture of the Big Me. The meritocracy wants you to promote yourself.” The humility shift is counter-cultural. Brooks describes it this way. “But all the people I’ve ever deeply admired
are profoundly honest about their own weaknesses…They have achieved a profound
humility, which has best been defined as an intense self-awareness from a
position of other-centeredness.”
I love
the language of “other-centeredness.” I
am sure that is spiritual. That surely
characterizes Jesus and so many of his followers. I am not sure how this is achieved except in
a spirit of love that is rooted deeply in humility. It is probably what the phrase, “love your
neighbor as yourself” is trying to encourage.
It is not a résumé virtue builder.
I like
the way Brooks ends his column. Almost
in jest he claims, “This is a philosophy for stumblers.” He adds an encouraging word: “The stumbler
doesn’t build her life by being better than others, but by being better than
she used to be.” That gives me
hope. I can be better than I used to
be. I don’t have to be Jesus or, even,
great. Ambition virtues try to prepare
us for greatness. I would just like to
be me---authentic and a noble version of me.
I guess
I will only know the end of the story at death.
At that point the eulogy will be spoken and we’ll see whether there will
be any sense of eulogy virtues. The good
news is I have time. Thanks to Brooks
and all the saints of history, I have a clue how to go about it. I know my culture does not support this moral
adventure. I am supposed to get all I
can get. I am supposed to beat the
others to the punch.
I choose
a different path. I am thankful to
Brooks for helping me with new perspective, new ideas and new language. I am on to the eulogy virtues!
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