There are some words I just really like. Serendipity is one of those words. It is fun to say. Especially the last part of the word, the “dipity,”
is fun to pronounce. It seems more
poetic than prose, more musical than mere speech. And I like the meaning of the word,
serendipity, too. Serendipity means
finding something very good or nice---something that you were not really
looking for or had any reason to expect to find. Serendipity is always a surprise---a good
surprise. Nobody can be against
serendipity.
If serendipity is something that we find that we could not
have expected, it seems like the story might end at that point. The point would be that we should appreciate
serendipity when it happens. And that
would be the end of the story. But I am
not so sure. I wonder if there is not a
more creative approach to serendipity?
I pondered the question and concluded that it is possible to
plan for serendipity. I know that might
sound like a contradiction. If serendipity
is unexpected and totally a gift---the unexpected---how does one plan for
it? That’s a good question, but the
answer came to me. You can plan for
serendipity (in the general sense). I
don’t think you can plan for a specific serendipity. Let me explain.
I doubt that we can plan for the serendipity of a million
dollars unexpectedly falling into our laps.
That is what I mean by specific serendipity. Having a million dollars fall into my lap
would be unrealistic. I can earn a
million dollars through hard work and, perhaps, some luck. I can play the lottery and, perhaps, win a
million dollars. But neither of these
examples is serendipitous. Hence, I do
not think we can plan for specific serendipity.
I do think, however, we can plan for what I call general
serendipity. By this I mean we can do
some things that put us in a place for serendipity perhaps to happen. We cannot force serendipity, of course. But I believe serendipity wants to
happen. I think God may be in one sense
a serendipitous God. And I think in some
ways the universe that we inhabit is often serendipitous. We can plan to be available to that God and
our universe when they are serendipitous.
Again, I will elaborate.
One way to plan for serendipity is to be curious. Being curious is an attitude. It is a way of looking at things---a mindset,
if you will. Being curious is a
particular way of being in the world.
Curiosity is a childlike wonder that we bring to all our
situations. Curious people are more
engaged, more alert, more interesting.
Curious people are not bored, nor do they bore people. There is an element of fun and frivolity in
the curious people.
The second way to plan for serendipity builds on our
curiosity. Be open. Being open makes us vulnerable to serendipity. If we are closed people, we are less and less
likely to have serendipity come our way.
Or if serendipity came our way, we would probably miss it! Being open increases possibilities---often
hugely increasing them. Serendipity is
the offspring of possibility.
The third thing we can do to plan for serendipity is to ask
questions. Curious, open people
naturally are going to ask questions.
Curiosity is the force of questioning.
Openness broadens the spectrum of potential questions. Asking a question engages any situation and
enhances possibility, which as we just saw, often births serendipity. And this leads to the last thing we do to
plan for serendipity. We listen.
It may sound so simple to say, just listen. But is so amazing to me how little people
tend to listen. If I ask a legitimate
question, then I should listen to the answer---to any answer. Listening makes me quite receptive. And if I truly am open, then I am very
receptive. I am not sure how much people
actually listen. Our culture is driven
by a fast-paced, technological, sound bite approach to information. Often there does not even seem to be anything
to which we should listen.
So I can plan for serendipity: I become curious, be open,
ask questions and listen. Will serendipity
happen? Not necessarily. But if and when it does happen, I am much more
likely to “get it.” And as I affirmed, I
do believe God is a serendipitous God.
And I believe the universe often provides serendipity. It is not guaranteed that I will “get it,”
but if I plan for it, I enhance the likelihood that I will “get it.”
Serendipity probably is not going to be a million
dollars. It is more likely serendipity
comes in the grace of intangible stuff---the grace of the Spirit. Serendipity comes in small ways, in addition
to the big, amazing ways. In fact, I
suspect that God and the universe much more often peddle serendipity in small
ways. It could be the smile from an unexpected
face, the gift from an unanticipated person, and so much more. As I try to plan for serendipity, I am
surprised at how frequently I “get it.”
And when I “get it,” I can only do two things: accept it and
appreciate it. Thank God!
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