In class yesterday I was having a discussion with some
students about life, meaning and purpose.
I don’t believe that our lives come with a ready-made meaning wrapped
within. Finding meaning in our lives is
not like going to the Christmas tree and picking up a “meaning package!” I suppose some people might wish it were this
easy. But I don’t want it this way.
I believe meaning can come to us in a couple ways. In the first place, I do think we can “find”
meaning. But meaning is not the
Christmas package simply laying there waiting to be picked up, opened and,
voila, we have our meaning. Meaning can
be found, but even this finding process takes some work---sometimes hard work. Finding meaning presupposes that we are
seeking.
This form of seeking can take us into many different
venues. For example, we might find
meaning by reading books. Reading is one
form of seeking. We might also find
ourselves in serious conversations with others who have traveled the spiritual
path further than we have. This person
might be a sage or spiritual guide.
However, to get advice---even good advice---does not automatically
translate into meaning in our lives. We
have to figure out how to apply it to our own particular situation.
The other way meaning comes to us is by us creating it. I do believe we can create meaning in our
life. This is a different approach and
process than “finding” meaning. When we
create meaning in our life, this presupposes that there is no original meaning
to be “found.” Rather we create meaning.
We could use the image of a building when we think about
creating meaning. First, it is wise to
lay a good foundation. There are many
good ways to lay the foundation. Again,
it might be through reading. It can
include many of the other classical spiritual disciplines, like prayer and
meditation. Study is a great foundation
because study brings some worthwhile knowledge.
Ignorance is not a very solid foundation. Ignorance makes us vulnerable to the harsh
winds of change.
On this solid foundation we build the structure of
meaning. My particular way of making
meaning includes a belief in God---a creative God. My meaning is structured around the notion
that I (and you) am a child of God. I am
alive with a purpose to love and to be loved.
I am created to live and to love and to serve. We are created for each other. I call this community. In my meaning structure there is no place for
the spiritual loner. Finally, it is not
about me, but about “we.”
At the core of the spiritual journey is the notion of the
true self. God created me to find and to
create this true self. I realize the
spiritual journey in its early segment usually is dealing with the false self
that most people have come to be. My
false self is not necessarily bad---it simply is not true. You can understand your false self when you
examine your self-image. My true self is
not the same thing as my self-image.
Put simply, I will be called to die to this false self in
order that the true self be discovered and/or created. Jesus says as much in the gospels. He routinely talks about dying to the old
self. Writers throughout the centuries
have talked about it in similar ways.
I like how Richard Rohr puts it in a recent piece of
writing. Rohr says, “I promise you that
the discovery of your True Self will feel like a thousand pounds have fallen
from your back. You will not have to
build, protect, or promote self-image.
Living in the True Self is quite simply a much happier existence, even
though we never live there a full twenty-four hours a day. But you henceforth have it as a place to
always go back to. You have finally
discovered the alternative to your False Self.”
We notice that Rohr uses the language of “discovering” our
true self. I can appreciate he
understands it this way, although I still think some of us understand it more
in the sense of “creating” the true self.
In any case, we come to know that true self. And when we know this true self, we are
free. We are free of the weight of the
false self---that self image that must look just so, must behave perfectly,
etc.
We are free no longer to build, protect or promote that
false self. I cringe at the efforts I
have made to promote my self-image. I am
appalled at how much money, for example, some people spend on their
self-image. Beauty products, clothes and
so on can be huge expenses to look just right.
Clearly I have nothing against beauty.
But quite a bit of what we do to ourselves in the name of beauty is
artificial. Some go to drastic measures
to hide their true self.
The true self is always a beautiful thing because it is a
God-given thing. My discussion with the
students yesterday may have been about life, meaning and purpose. But the bottom line is, the discussion was
about the true self. If you find that,
you have found the treasure in our earthen vessel.
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