In a reading for class I hit a line in Kathleen Norris’
book, The Cloister Walk, that struck
a chord in me. I know I had read the
passage before, but somehow it never hit me like it did this time. It is in a chapter Norris calls,
“Generations.” The chapter talks about
how there are generations of monks within a monastery, just like there can be
generations within a family. I never
thought about that, but it rings true.
Norris begins a paragraph with these words. “Monastic storytelling is a form of gossip,
and like the best gossip, it often serves a moral purpose.” I had to laugh at that
thought. Most people I know probably do
gossip (as I confess to doing on occasion), but probably most of us would deny
that we do it! Norris then moves on to
indicate there are some dangers in the monastic life. And I don’t doubt that. Then she writes the line that I very much
liked. Norris says, “Monks and nuns are
not all sweetness and light---they’re ordinary human beings---and I’ve been
told by Benedictines that one of the greatest dangers in monastic life is to
succumb to pettiness.”
As you probably know, pettiness is being preoccupied with
the little things in life. To be petty
is to be concerned with the narrow or the unimportant things in our lives. It is to be so preoccupied that we miss the
bigger picture and the important things in life. To be petty is like clutching
the penny when we could have had the dollar!
Once more, I wish I could say that I don’t know a thing about being
petty, but that would be a lie.
I can best understand pettiness when I relate it to another
issue. To be specific, my pettiness is
probably related to my ego. My ego is
usually revealed in the pronouns, “I” and “me.”
Of course, you cannot assume everything about the ego is bad. It is appropriate to think about things like,
“I should take care of myself.” Self-care
is certainly important. And it would be
better if more of us did self-care well.
So not all ego focus is bad.
But ego focus can be less than good or appropriate. I typically get at this less-than-good aspect
of the ego when I realize I am being egocentric. Fairly early in life I would hear someone
say, “Oh, he is so egocentric!” A
comparable statement would be something like, “Oh, I just wish she would get
over herself!” To be egocentric is to
think the world revolves around me. Put
more literally, I am the center of the world---ego-centered or egocentric. To be egocentric says that I am the most
important---or, perhaps, the only important one. You don’t count!
If pettiness is a less than desirable characteristic, how
can we get beyond or around it? That is
a spiritual question and deserves a spiritual answer. In a word I believe we can get over being
petty when we learn to be profound. Let
me be clear how I am using the term, profound.
To be profound is in one sense intellectual. But it is not intellectual in the sense of
IQ. Some of us have average IQs and
others may be a genius. Allow me to coin
a term. Profundity is more a measure of
PQ: profundity quotient.
PQ probably has more to do with wisdom, not simply
intellectual IQ. We all know the high IQ
type, who really is an idiot in real life.
A profound person is someone who always seems to have an answer, a
suggestion, or even “opening” into a better way. The profound person often has the insight
into the big picture and just the right approach to make things different or
better.
Indeed, the idea of insight is a chief characteristic of the
profound person. Profundity strikes us
as so insightful or perceptive. When
someone says something profound, I am left thinking, “how did you come to know
that?” In this sense Jesus and the
Buddha were really profound human beings.
No one would describe them as petty!
I am pretty convinced those true followers of Jesus or the Buddha, as
well as the true Jews and Hindus and others, are not petty either. I am sure that any true believer who “gets
it,” cannot possibly be petty any longer.
To become a believer is, at the same time, to become a doer. We give up our petty ways and enroll in the
“life of profundity” program.
Finally, I am confident that profound people are deep
people---or are on the way to becoming deep people. Of course, this suggests that petty people
are shallow people. They probably don’t
think of themselves that way (why would anyone who is egocentric think he or
she is shallow!). But I would argue all
egocentric people and behavior is ultimately shallow.
If it can only be “me,” then there is no place for
“we.” I think profundity is too big, too
deep, for just me. Profundity is
big-picture insight. Egocentric---just-me
thinking---cannot possibly be big-picture.
But now comes the trick---the spiritual trick.
Profundity is not simply something to know. Profundity is something to be and to do. That is the spiritual part. The spiritual part is learning to be profound
and, then, doing my life profoundly.
That is my choice and my chore.
Christians call it discipleship.
Jesus says, “Follow me.” Choosing
the chore of following him is profound!
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